【 Roomfun 】Understanding BDSM Terminology: Unlock the Mystery of BDSM

BDSM is more diverse than we thought

In Asian society, BDSM is still a non-mainstream culture. When it comes to BDSM, most people still think that it is related to violence, pain or sex, but this is not the case. In fact, elements of BDSM are all around us in our lives . It can be found in movies, books, music, clothing, or even closer to our families and emotional lives .

When we took the BDSM test today and found out that we have sexual fetishes that we didn’t know about, don’t panic, because the people and things that everyone encounters in different growth environments will have different impacts. And the scope of BDSM is broader and more interesting than we think!

Next, let me introduce the terminology of BDSM to help you better understand what BDSM is, explore the inner depths of stimulation and better understand the needs of your partner. Before introducing it, we need to know that BDSM must be carried out under the principles of safety, rationality and informed consent, and communication is also a necessary key.

Roles in BDSM Toys

1. Dominant (Dom/Domme)

The Chinese term "dominator" or "leader" refers to the party in a relationship, scene or activity who obtains power and control through consensus reached by both parties and under conditions of safety and consent of both parties.

We can call a Dominant a Dom, and a girl's Dom can be called a Domme. This is also the D/s relationship that everyone sees more often. We need to remember here that it is not pure abuse, but an exchange of power, which also includes daily life and psychological state, etc. Therefore, to be a competent Dom, you need to know your partner well enough, be responsible for your own actions, and remember not to take the other person's submission for granted or use it as a weapon.

2. Submissive (Sub)

The Chinese name is submissive, which can be abbreviated as Sub. It refers to a relationship, scene or activity in which both parties reach a consensus, voluntarily and agreeably give up part or all of the control to the dominant person.

Submissives can be of any gender or sexual orientation and are not submissive at all times. Being a submissive also means different things to different individuals. If we are submissive today, when an uncomfortable situation occurs, remember to use a safe word, not to accept it completely.

3.  Master

In Chinese, it is called master, and the hostess can be called Mistress. Master refers to the person who acquires ownership of the other party after both parties reach a consensus when establishing a relationship with someone.

Usually, people who are masters have a controlling personality. Compared to the Dom mentioned above, masters have a deeper power exchange, a sense of exclusiveness, and a 24/7 master-slave relationship.

Submissives or slaves exercise ultimate control over their masters, sometimes including regulating daily chores or health issues.

Here is a little reminder. If you go to an unfamiliar place today, it is recommended not to directly say that you are Master, because for some people, this word is an advanced usage or has strong emotions, and will be amplified by many people. Review your or your partner's behavior.

4. Slave

A slave in Chinese is a person who agrees to give full ownership and control to someone in a relationship.

First of all, we need to know that the word slave needs to be taken seriously. Slaves in BDSM Toys are voluntary and consenting, not involuntary and not so-called sex slaves.

When we become the slaves of the other party, we have become the property of the other party. This is the transfer of ownership, which can be referred to as TPE for short. We can also know from this that Slave is a more extreme form of submission than Sub. Therefore, when we understand and trust each other better, it will be safer and more secure for us to establish a relationship. We can also discuss or sign an exclusive relationship with each other. Belong to each other's expectations or rules, treaties, etc.

5. Top

In Chinese, it is called the active party or the superior person. It refers to the party who takes the initiative or gives actions in an activity or action. It is also similar to the more commonly heard "attack".

Special attention should be paid here. The so-called Top does not necessarily have a relationship of power exchange, but focuses on who will give or take the initiative in the next process. It is not related to pain. Do not associate these with Proper nouns are lumped together.

This also means that we can be submissive Top, not Dom as some people mistakenly think, and Sub-Top people are not uncommon.

6. Bottom

In Chinese, it is called the passive party or the subordinate. It refers to the person who agrees to take passive and accepting behavior in an action or activity. It is also similar to the more commonly heard "receiver".

Bottom does not mean submission or love, but rather focuses on receiving and being given certain behaviors.

If we were Dom-Bottom today, we would be the one giving orders and ordering Sub to do something to us. Therefore, we can know that everyone has many possibilities.

7. Sadist

Sadism or sadism in Chinese refers to a person who, with consent, enjoys inflicting humiliation or pain on others, whether on a physical, mental or emotional level, or enjoys seeing others inflict pain on others.

Sometimes Sadist just likes to hear the sound the other person makes when they are in pain or to see the other person's reaction, and does not intend to cause permanent harm to anyone. Sadists in BDSM Toys basically only bring the pain they want to the willing masochist. Some sadists also have a certain understanding of anatomy. They will know which parts of the body can safely withstand the pain of hands or props. impact.

It’s not that it’s so violent or necessarily painful as everyone thinks, but these behaviors can bring pleasure to both parties, and they occur safely, sanely, and with consent.

Small addition: Sadism means sadism, sadism and sadism.

8.Masochist

Masochism is called masochism in Chinese, and refers to a person who derives pleasure or satisfaction from pain, whether it is pain or humiliation at the physical, mental or emotional level, under the condition of consensus and safe consent.

But masochists do not like or accept all types of pain, and even in carefully designed situations or circumstances, the pain caused can make the masochist more excited.

Therefore, when we meet a masochist, we can understand what kind of pain the other person likes or what they want us to do. We also need to know that liking pain is not necessarily to escape or get rid of things, but sometimes to face it more directly. to the root of the matter.

Small addition: Masochism means masochism, masochism and Masochism.

9. Switch

In Chinese, it is called two-way or switch, and some people call it switch. It refers to a person who is willing to participate in different activities with different roles and identities in different partners, states or situations.

For example, it can be Dom or Sub, or Top and Bottom. Sometimes you may feel confused when your partner is a Switch. At this time, communication is very important and the key to moving forward, because this way you can understand in advance what role you will play.

Occasionally making some changes can help you understand yourself or your partner better, and you can also understand the feelings of different characters in different situations. For example, we were originally Doms but changed to Subs today, so that when we train Subs in the future, we can better understand each other's thoughts or feelings. But you still have to get the other person’s consent first and respect the other person.

10. Disciplinarian

A disciplinarian in Chinese refers to a person who believes in and strictly follows the rules and will punish those who violate the rules.

This word is also an extension of D (Discipline) in BDSM Sex Toys. Discipline is discipline and training. It means that one person trains the other person to do things according to prescribed rules, sometimes by enforcing a certain code of conduct or using Rewards and punishments encourage others to follow the rules.

This rule needs to be discussed by both parties, and the ultimate purpose of the rule is to help build a relationship of trust and respect for each other. And some rules are about living habits, such as eating and drinking well, or exercising to make your body better.

Usually Disciplinarians will use spanking or whipping as a means of behavior modification or punishment. Special attention should be paid to the severity of punishment here. Although punishment is a good way to deter bad behavior, when the punishment is excessive, the negative effects can be great.

11.Kinkster

The word Kinkster is derived from "Kink". Kink can be translated as restraint, and Kink can be said to be the collective name for non-mainstream sexual fetishes. It contrasts with what the general public considers to be "traditional" and "normal" sexual morals and fetishes, and BDSM is also a part of Kink. So we can know that Kinkster is a person who loves and has non-mainstream sexual fetishes.

Usually Kinkster do not want to be defined by a specific role, and they accept that a person can have multiple roles or develop other hobbies and roles. So we can also refer to people of any gender, sexuality, or any type of relationship and a group of people with a variety of different roles as a Kinkster

For different people, being a Kinkster also means different things. Some are performed in intimate behaviors, some are only interested in related activities, and some integrate the Kinkster identity into their daily life. And Kinkster has every imaginable sexual fetish, and some that are simply unimaginable.

12. Fetishist

In Chinese, it is called fetishist, which is a word extended from Fetish. Fetishists have more specific sexual fetishes than Kinksters. They will be excited, aroused, and even orgasmic by specific items, non-genital parts, occasions, or behaviors.

As long as the things you like don't cause trouble to unrelated people or seriously affect your daily life, it's not a big problem.

The more common fetishes include the following:

Clothing and materials: stockings, boots, latex clothing, leather...etc.

Body fluids: excrement, saliva, vomit...etc.

Body parts: fingers, toes, butt...etc.

Role: teacher/student, Doctors/patients, pregnant women...etc.

Scenes: toilets, dark alleys, basements...etc.

13.Swinger

It refers to partners who agree and voluntarily practice non-monogamy. Swinger is an extension of the word Swing. Swing is consensual non-monogamy in a committed relationship, where one person may be watching or consensually having sex with someone other than their partner.

Most Swinger have an open mind and are in a strong, loving relationship, which of course requires a certain level of trust and honest, open communication. Only in this way can each other break through the boundaries of intimacy and achieve a stronger, healthier and fulfilling emotional relationship. But if the relationship between the two parties is already stuck today, it will not save our emotional life, but may make the problem more serious.

Now we will also see that there are many types of practices in this relationship and life pattern, with various rules or patterns of behavior. Different age groups or ideas have different interpretations of this relationship. Some are very formal, while others discuss all types together. But no matter what, it must be communicated with each other and done voluntarily and with consent.

14.Hedonist

The Chinese name is Hedonist, which is an extension of the word Hedonism. It refers to a person who attaches great importance to the pursuit of happiness and pleasure. The purpose of life is to pursue the most happiness and the least pain. The definition of happiness or pain varies from person to person.

Hedonism is mainly divided into psychological and ethical aspects. Psychological hedonism believes that human behavior is motivated by the pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of pain; ethical hedonism is a philosophical concept. They believe that the basic obligations of human existence are Get as much happiness as possible in your life.

Because of this, some people may think that a Hedonist's behavior or pursuit of things will cause them to have no sense of morality. But if a Hedonist does not violate or harm others, then does the problem of immorality disappear?

Hedonists in the BDSM and Kink groups are very easily kidnapped by traditional values ​​such as virtue and moral integrity, but we all know that these groups place great emphasis on mutual consent and safety. At this time, you can also think about whether there is a need to change some of the old or unfounded concepts of Hedonists in these groups in today's society, or whether Hedonists also have their disadvantages.

15. Sensualist

In Chinese, they are called sensualists, which refer to people who like to seek pleasure by stimulating their senses in different ways. The difference between Sensualist and Hedonist is that Sensualist believes that people's senses and perceptions are more important, while Hedonist believes that people should pursue more happiness and less pain.

Sensualists enjoy exploring their own or others' senses and reveling in the joy of the experience. The games involved are also called sensory games and are often used as a form of foreplay. It doesn't have to be sexual, and it can play a variety of roles. Therefore, there are many types of gameplay. The well-known senses of touch, smell, taste, hearing and vision can all be used as sensory exploration and stimulation experiences.

Common ones include the following:

Touch: ice cubes/warm water, silk/feathers, metal/wood...etc.

Hearing: some extreme music or comfortable music that overloads the senses...etc.

Smell: scented candles, the smell of underarms...etc.

Sometimes combining different sensory experiences can achieve a higher effect of sensory overload or sensory deprivation. At this time, wearing a blindfold can also amplify our senses several times.

The Sensualist is not limited to a specific role and can be either the submissive or the dominant party. Sensory games are quite suitable as introductory games for people with little experience. Because the general gameplay is not too threatening, and it is not for the pursuit of extremes and pain, it is considered a relatively safe game. However, you may find that some gameplay is really exciting and curious later on, and it is even more important at this time. Pay attention to the other party's consent and safety issues.

16. Exhibitionist

Exhibitionists refer to people who have exhibitionism. Exhibitionists like to expose their nudity or intimate behaviors in public or semi-public ways. When others see the Exhibitionist's nudity or intimate behaviors, or fantasize about being seen, they will be affected by it. And feel excited.

Exhibitionists need to consider legality issues when exposing themselves. The point is that it depends on whether the other party agrees with the Exhibitionist exposing himself to them. If the other party has not yet agreed, don't show it in a hurry to avoid being arrested by the police.

Exhibitionism does not necessarily involve strangers, acquaintances or partners are also included. It is not sexual, it may also be sexy, which also means that there are various possibilities. Among the tendencies of exposure, the most common and most fantasized one is having sex in some public place or somewhere not in the room. Don’t worry when you see this, because most people have a tendency to be a little exposed, and it’s normal as long as it’s within a reasonable range.

If you want to know whether you have a tendency to be exposed, you can think about whether you have ever fantasized about others spying on you, whether you had similar experiences when you were young and were excited, showing yourself in front of friends or partners, or sharing something about sex. related experiences, or wanting to dress sexier than usual while being watched by others.

When you want to put it into practice today, it is recommended that you discuss it with your partner first and then explore it together. For example, DIY in front of your partner or try to turn on the lights or open the curtains a little during the process, and then slowly increase the scale. But remember to get the other person’s consent and try it legally.

17.Voyeur

Voyeurs refer to people who are voyeuristic. Voyeurs like to watch other people's naked bodies or intimate behaviors and derive pleasure from them. Some Voyeurs will also be strongly interested in other people's private lives or sexual lives.

Voyeur and Exhibitionist complement each other, and some people are both. They have different hobbies in different situations. The same thing is that both must take consent and legality into consideration.

Voyeur can get pleasure from watching or listening. In terms of vision, it may be watching other people's live broadcasts on the Internet, watching your partner naked in front of you, acting as an OB in a multi-person party, taking cool photos of your partner, or filming the bad times between yourself and your partner, etc.

For auditory purposes, it might be hearing the sound of sex coming from the next room or hearing someone share their sexual exploits. Of course, the above behaviors must be carried out with the consent of others and friends, and do not maliciously leak things out. It is not only illegal but also harmful to others.

When you want to put it into practice today, it is also recommended that you discuss it with your partner first and then explore it together. For example, ask your partner to DIY in front of you, watch your partner take a shower, change clothes, or break things in front of the mirror, etc., and then slowly enlarge the scale. Remember to get the other person’s permission and try it legally.

18.Princess

Everyone usually thinks that princesses not only appear in fairy tales, but in fact she also exists in BDSM Sex Toys!

Princess refers to a person who needs more praise and attention than ordinary people.

Princess is mostly a submissive type. The submissive princess desires Dom's favor and praise in exchange for the Princess's surrender to Dom. Although Princess may lose her temper during the process, when Princess's needs are met, she will obediently obey Dom's instructions.

There are also so-called submissive warrior princesses. They usually hold high power or have a strong personality outside, but in private relationships they are submissive to powerful Doms.

But when using the nickname Princess, you need to pay special attention. If used too much or if it causes the other person to have uncontrollable fantasies, it may have a negative impact.

19. Cougar

Refers to mature women who seek out younger men for dating or relationships, primarily based on attraction level or age. Most Cougar have rich dating experience, and Cougar are usually willing to directly tell each other what they like or want. Such direct expressions also exude a mature and confident charm without knowing it.

Why does Cougar prefer younger boys? There are several main reasons:

A. Cougar believes that young men are more physical in bed.

B. Cougar believes that young men have not been destroyed by society, are relatively innocent, and have high plasticity and can be shaped into what they like.

C. Young men are more good-looking and attractive in appearance

. D.  Young men can also be serious in relationships.

E. Maturity is not necessarily directly proportional to age.

In the past, most people had double standards for age difference relationships. If an older man dates a younger woman, the man is generally considered attractive. However, when mature women date younger men, they are often looked at strangely. Now, because of social and cultural changes and some related websites or groups that rehabilitate and educate the public about Cougar, people are more tolerant of Cougar's behavior of seeking young men.

Some people mistakenly think that Cougar are the dominant party because they are more proactive or have rich experience, but this is a stereotype. In fact, many Cougar want the other party to dominate them. So if you meet a Cougar, you might as well chat with them and understand the needs or relationships they are looking for. This will make it more interesting when opening a new world.

20. Slut

It refers to embracing freedom, understanding one's own desires, and not being kidnapped by traditional values ​​and having relationships with multiple people. It also refers to trying things that one would not normally do with a passionate and free heart, and with a passionate and free mood. . In communities such as BDSM Sex Toys, LGBTQ+, and polyamory, the word slut is less offensive.

People who usually call themselves Slut are mostly independent, confident, proud of their sexual orientation, free and not bound by traditional morals, and indulge their desires.

However, the word Slut still has many derogatory meanings from the past to the present, and is even sexist. Therefore, when we don’t know the other person well enough or don’t know whether the other person can accept it, we should avoid using it to call others names. Nowadays, many groups and scholars are continuing to discuss and work hard to destroy the old values.

21. Doll

Doll means literally, it can be called a doll or a doll. It means evolving one's body and spirit into a living doll. The two people involved in dollization can be called the owner (creator) and the doll, similar to a D/s or M/s relationship.

There are many types of Dolls. Some people dress up as rag dolls, Barbie dolls, ball dolls, robots... and so on. The dress or placement of Doll can be decided by the doll itself or together with the owner.

Some Dolls will take the lead and guide their owners to dress them up beautifully. For example, what dress or clothes to wear, how to style your hair, what kind of makeup you want to put on, and where you want to be positioned. Some will also undergo plastic surgery to achieve the ideal doll appearance.

But becoming a Doll is not just physical, it also includes the spirit and behavior of a doll. Therefore, when having sex with its owner, Doll will lie quietly and be placed and adjusted by the owner at the moment. Doll will not make any sound during the process. At this time, it is very important to communicate the boundaries in advance. Of course, you can also use your creativity to express it at the moment, for example, there is a certain agency that can be activated.

The psychological characteristics of a Doll usually include the latent consciousness of enjoying objectification and natural obedience, and transforming into a living doll through oneself or external forces. Although not everyone who possesses these qualities will agree, it does not change that this is part of the essence of Doll.

22. Toys

Toy literally means it can be called a toy. It refers to a person being treated and played with like a beloved toy. Toys exist to please their owners, who can play with them as they please and take good care of them.

Toys can be cuddled on the bed, or put away in a shoe box like a plush doll. The owner can also take them to the streets of Kenting. Of course, owners can also show off or share their Toys with others, but they must be aware that they are just like toys, and if they are broken or damaged, they are irreversible. If Toy is not treated well, his condition will deteriorate and he will not be as flawless as when he first got it. Therefore, Toy owners will take great care of their toys and will check and clean the Toy carefully after use.

Most Toys like to be treated like an object, sharing the same qualities as Doll in enjoying objectification and natural obedience, plus the need for attention and interaction with them. Toys can be interesting or complex. The more you understand them, the more fun and gameplay they will bring.

23. Sissy/Feminizer

It means that in bdsm practice, a biological male likes to change from masculine to feminine in behavior, dress or identity to achieve a different emotional, external or psychological level than before, sometimes through being humiliated. Way.

People who like to transform men into women by changing their appearance, behavior or identity are called Feminizers. These two are more common in husband-wife relationships.

Usually the process of feminization starts with the outer appearance. For example: make-up, wigs and inside-out costumes, chastity belts are also a common choice.

Behaviorally, there will also be changes in demeanor and status in the family. In daily life, start taking care of the big and small things at home, and let Feminizer guide what to do or learn women's behavior and posture.

In bed, Feminizer was generally the dominant one, and Sissy obeyed her, letting her play with and humiliate her. Sometimes Feminizer would wear a dildo to fuck Sissy, or perform controlled cumshots on Sissy.

We need to know that Sissy is very receptive, passionate and enjoys the process of feminization. Although it is quite difficult to strike a balance between the rigid traditional society and the role you want to be. But you can still learn to be yourself, accept yourself, and strike a balance between your hidden self and traditional society.

24. Rigger

Known as a binder or rope hand in Chinese, it usually refers to a person who is good at and likes to tie others with ropes, whether in performance, art, spirituality or other levels. Rigger is not specific to certain genders or roles. When kidnapping someone, the Rigger is the Top, but the Rigger is not necessarily the Dom.

The presentation of rope bondage can range from simple home to large and complex suspension scenes, or self-bondage. However, rope bondage is not always related to sex. Most of the time, it is a performance or an artistic presentation.

The preparation in advance for rope binding is also very tedious. From communicating with the other party, selecting the material and type of rope, and even learning human anatomy... etc., you can know that it is an activity that requires high skills and professional knowledge. There are many things to pay attention to and clean up during and after the process.

Therefore, before you start kidnapping people, you must be prepared and understand the relevant knowledge. There are also some good Riggers in Taiwan that hold lectures or courses, and you can go and see them or experience them.

25. Rope Top

Refers to the party who binds a person in a rope bondage. Before Rope Top starts tying the other person, he needs to understand the other person's condition, acceptance level, preferences, etc. Also don't mess with Doms unless there is a more formal power exchange relationship.

If you want to learn rope bondage, face-to-face learning is best, but videos can also help build a foundation. When dealing with people of different body types, there will be different combinations, and the softness, muscle and bone strength of the other person must also be taken into consideration. Therefore, it takes continuous learning and practice to become familiar with it.

Awareness of safety is important, as is knowledge of anatomy and the ability to respond to crises. During the procedure, special attention should be paid to safety and caution about nerve damage. Nerve damage may cause damage in just a few seconds, but the damage will last for a period of time or even be permanent.

Therefore, to ensure that the blood can circulate and the joints can withstand pressure, the position of the knot and communication with the other party are very important. It is recommended to have scissors or knives nearby so that you can quickly destroy or untie them in the event of an emergency.

26. Rope Bottom

Refers to the party who is tied up in a rope. If we are going to be tied today, we can first share our past experiences with Rope Top, the location of our nerves, whether we have been injured before, and our favorite rope material...etc. Let the other party know you better as much as possible, which can also reduce the chance of accidents and make the process smoother and better.

Of course it's up to the individual how in-depth they want to learn, some just want to learn the basics, others attend lectures to become as proficient as possible in the rope bondage skills. If you just want to have fun at home, then learning to hang is not so important.

Many professional Rope Bottoms also practice yoga/aerial yoga to strengthen their body muscles, train their body perception abilities, and gain a better sense of balance when tied up. Rope Bottom also needs the ability to handle pain and distinguish between good and bad pain to avoid missing opportunities.

If you encounter Rope Top and do not want to understand or lack the professional knowledge of rope bondage, then you should carefully consider whether to continue. We certainly don’t want any accidents to occur during such a wonderful process.

27. Rope Bunny

It is a common synonym for Rope Bottom. It mostly describes models who perform in rope bondage performances or demonstrations, or Rope Bottom who love being tied very much.

If you are a submissive Rope Bunny, you should be very excited about the helplessness and being at the mercy of others in the rope bondage.

If you are a masochistic Rope Bunny, you can also enjoy the friction and restraint caused by the process while being restrained by the hemp rope.

No matter what, you need to clarify the boundaries with the other party first, so that both parties will be on the same level and the whole process will be more secure and enjoyable.

28. Spanko

Refers to a person who is interested in spanking/being spanked. If someone is only interested in spanking, you can call him a Spanko Purist (spanking purist, a small circle that many people in Taiwan will say).

No matter the person who is spanking or the one being spanked, the safety of the other party must be considered. To deal with emotions, communicate well in advance and ensure that subsequent activities are mutually agreeable.

I believe everyone will be very curious about spanking props. Different materials, thickness, and thickness will produce completely different feelings and marks, so you can try it first to see what feeling you can accept and like, and then decide which props to use.

Common spanking positions include

1. Diaper-changing position: Top lifts Bottom's legs to assume a diaper-changing position, and can control Bottom by hugging his legs tightly.

2. Stand and bend over and touch your knees: This posture uses a lot of muscles, which can not only accurately aim the strike, but also make Bottom feel the pain when it is stagnant.

3. Half-lying on an object: Try to choose an object that will not move to avoid hitting and running at the same time.

4. OTK: Top is in a sitting position, and Bottom is lying on Top’s lap. This position is like punishing a child, usually with the hands, and Bottom also has enough room to move in this position.

5. Doggy style or lie flat on the bed: belly down, legs together, buttocks slightly raised. The muscles in this posture are also more relaxed and less painful than the previous four.

Basically, controllable SP is quite safe, but if you are pregnant or have been injured before, you need to carefully assess the risk first.

29. Spanker

It refers to a person who likes to spank others, and because he is a person who gives, he can call Spanker Top, which is a general name for Spanker.

Sometimes it's a Disciplinarian or Mentor, which is someone who punishes you when someone breaks the rules and is responsible for setting the rules. Usually spankers are different from other abusers because their interest is very focused on spanking.

Before spanking, you need to understand Bottom's limits and health status, etc. You also need to know what you get from the spanking, and whether you have clearly expressed your needs and ideas to Bottom.

You can warm up Bottom, starting with a gentle spanking, which helps blood circulation and allows Bottom to relax and get into the situation, and at the same time, you can observe and evaluate Bottom's reaction. The spanking should be in the middle and lower part of the buttocks, or on the top of the thigh, to avoid hitting the tailbone or the top of the buttocks, which may injure the bottom.

30. Spankee

It refers to a person who likes to be spanked, and because he is a person who accepts spanking, he can call Spankee bottom, which is a general name for Spankee.

Sometimes it is brat or charge. The former refers to a person who likes to be naughty before or during the process; the latter usually refers to a person who has special interactions with the teacher.

Some people like to be spanked because they like the pleasure and pain; some people like to be disciplined, and spanking is regarded as an act of punishment...and so on. As a Spankee, you need to understand your own limits and clearly express your acceptance level with Spanker r. It is very important for both parties to establish safe words and communicate.

Stay as relaxed as possible during the spanking, don't breathe too fast, and don't forget to recover in the rush for the next pleasure, and take care of any bruises or broken skin.

31.Leatherman

Refers to people who are obsessed with leather and maintain the traditional style of BDSM. Originally formed by a combination of gay returning soldiers after World War II and male-only motorcycle clubs at the time, these clubs became the earliest leather bars.

At that time, they usually wore leather jackets and leather vests, with short hair or beards. This was also because most of them came from the military. They were accustomed to military life and strictly adhered to the values ​​of integrity, discipline, structure and stability, and hated others treating women. Temperament and Leatherman are connected together.

In the early days, Leatherman was sometimes misunderstood by the gay community and was not understood in mainstream culture. Their bar was also raided by the police. Coupled with the AIDS epidemic at the time, Leatherman stumbled along the way. But they were not defeated. After continuous efforts to grow, leather life and culture have gradually been seen by more people. Now they have combined many different groups, and all kinds of people can be seen at parties. in.

Nowadays, leather culture is very inclusive and does not limit who can be a Leatherman. As long as this culture is meaningful to you and you have a leather soul in your heart, instead of treating leather culture as following the trend, then you are a Leatherman. Leather-related competitions and activities are also held in some countries, and there are many activists in the leather community who defend gay rights. Leather culture documents are also collected in many gay museums.

32.Leatherwoman

The origin of leather culture comes from gay men. There were very few lesbians and heterosexuals in the early leather culture. As social trends change, more people join in and BDSM becomes more mainstream, leather culture is also divided into old schools and new schools, opening up different paths.

The first lesbian leather group emerged in San Francisco in 1978, when they extended a code of conduct about leather and lace from the old guard, and only their approved members could wear exclusive uniforms. After long-term development and hard work, the Leatherwoman competition was held for the first time in 1987, and it often helped Leathermen suffering from AIDS along the way.

Although there are still some objections, more and more people are joining them, and related shadows can be seen in many popular cultures.

33. Leather Daddy(Mommy)

A person who tends to dominate others and is obsessed with leather. On the contrary, a man who tends to be dominated and looking for a Leather Daddy (Mommy) is called a Leather Boy (Girl).

In addition to personal relationships, Daddy also has social and cultural recognition, just like being an authoritative figure in the leather community. Some countries will also hold Leather Daddy and Leather Boy competitions.

The relationship between the two is like Top/Bottom, eager to serve and be served. In each other's private space, playing their own intimate games. Although the actual age does not necessarily determine the role, in many Leather Daddy and Boy relationships, you will still find that most of the older ones take on the role of Leather Daddy, and sometimes there are even very taboo situations.

34. Bootblacking

Bootblacking, also known as shoe shining, is a service art in BDSM, and because the focus is on leather, it is very common in the leather community. Bootblacking is primarily about the love of leather and a way to give back, similar to the lifestyle in the military or in a motorcycle club.

Some people think this is a submissive behavior, but in fact many shoe shiners think this is Top behavior, and it does not mean that they have a foot fetish.

Shoe shiners usually have certain professional knowledge and have their own shoe shine kits. Shoe shine competitions are even held at leather conferences. Shoe shining is the art of treating and maintaining leather, and is a service seen in both public and private settings. But Bootblacking is not just about polishing shoes. You can also see that leather products such as clothing, accessories, props, etc. will be carefully taken care of and maintained by people.

Polishing leather to a mirror-like luster requires a lot of time and a lot of technique. Taking good care of your leather is one thing, but going deeper is showing dedication and respect for the other person or the leather. While polishing your shoes, you can also immerse yourself in some fantasies or memories.

If you are interested and want to try it, you can start by serving your partner and wiping the leather products at home as a way to express your love for your partner.

35. Primal

Refers to a person who rejects general social conventions and prefers to express his or her original feelings and emotions, usually related to animalistic instincts, behaviors and desires. Animal behaviors are exhibited during sex or interactions with a partner, which may include scratching, biting, wrestling, dancing, yelling, and imitating animal sounds such as howling, grunting, etc. Express your emotions/feelings through these behaviors without being kidnapped by civilized society.

In primitive circles, the top is usually called the predator or hunter, while the bottom is called the prey. There are also rare cases where two predators see which one can successfully dominate the other. There were no gender or character restrictions in the original game either, everyone was able to participate. During the process, you will see less BDSM props, but more teeth, pulling... and so on.

Due to the primitive nature of animals, they often involve highly sensory experiences, which may seem primitive and rough, but contain feelings of joy, anger, intimacy, etc. Also because in the original game, the mood swings are relatively large, which may sometimes be difficult to control, so it is important to set up a safe word and work with familiar and trustworthy people to judge when to stop or end through their own experience. .

In traditional societies, primitive games are also a way for people to take off their masks. It can be a game type, an identity, or a relationship. As long as everyone agrees and explores safely, they will be able to participate after it is over. It brings unexpected peace and contentment.

36. Primal Predator

Known as predator or hunter in Chinese, it refers to a person who likes to hunt, capture, and knock down prey. Primitive predators did not use reason to control their prey. Instead, they subdue or knock down their prey in a manner similar to that of animal predators such as wolves, snakes, or birds of prey. The Primal Predator captures or restrains its prey by setting traps and luring them. There is no masking of emotion, which may be happiness, anger, sadness, or in rare cases fear.

Before hunting, predators may smell their prey or touch their hair before they escape. Once the prey is trapped or subdued, the predator takes control of them and enjoys the thrill of pursuit to capture. Predators feel powerful and satisfied when they win their prey, but feel frustrated and disappointed when they fail to catch their prey. These behaviors require great attention to physical and emotional feelings, and you must pause when necessary, so it is recommended to play with people you are familiar with and trust.

The original game is a highly difficult activity and all actions require 100% consent of the participants. Predators also need to be constantly checked during the process to make sure everything is in good condition. When controlling prey, be careful about the severity. Not enough control and you risk injury; too much control and it loses its meaning. Therefore, it is necessary to have the right mentality before the game starts to ensure that the participants are ready.

37. Primal Prey

Called prey in Chinese, it refers to a person who enjoys being hunted, subdued, and dominated by predators. Some prey have specific animal characteristics (such as wolves or foxes), and some are despicable humans.

While prey are submissive in nature, Primal Prey are also primal, meaning they may fight. Sometimes it's sex, sometimes it's a power exchange. A Primal Prey that is cornered may also resort to biting, scratching, and other methods to resist until it is truly defeated, proving that the predator has enough ability and power.

The term "predator/prey" describes two people exploring a primal relationship. In a primitive relationship, each person can play their preferred role, most often one plays the predator and the other becomes the prey. But as with predators, there are times when two prey animals play together.

Before starting, everyone must communicate and understand the relationship with an open mind to avoid misunderstandings. Sometimes try not to overthink things to avoid getting too stressed out. By letting your thoughts wander once in a while, you won't feel too scared or overthinking.

Don't rush into the original game if you're not ready. Make sure everyone is prepared, discuss what they can and can't do, and set safe words and boundaries. If everything goes well during the process, the sense of peace, trust and happiness after it is over will make people feel satisfied from the inside out.

38. Bull

Called bull in Chinese, it refers to a man who has sex with another person's partner with consent.

If it's a female, it's called Cuckcake.

Being a bull is not a fun and interesting thing, it comes with a lot of responsibilities. Bull must understand what each partner or couple is looking for and why they want to meet. The main reason why couples allow a third person to join is because everyone is curious and wants to pursue novelty or excitement... etc. It is not because the husband has poor abilities that he asks Bull to join. Your partner will discuss everything before looking for a Bull, and as a Bull you should respect their decision.

After joining, Bull needs to understand how girls like to play, what her partner wants to see...and so on. At this time, you have to make a choice between your own preferences, and you also have to know that you can't have a relationship with the other person at any time. Because the other party has his own family, his own life style or problems, it is very important to give him space.

If partners come to Bull to complain about their partner today, don't try to solve their problems, just listen, and you must maintain each other's privacy and dignity. The most important thing is not to try to replace the other person's partner, but to be their good friend.

The above behaviors and responsibilities may have different impacts on each Bull. Some enjoyment may also bring about changes in their own ideas or life patterns. Before entering, you can think about whether you are suitable to be your partner. third party.

39.Hotwife

It refers to a married woman having a relationship with someone other than her significant other, and her husband fully understands her, agrees with her and encourages her to get pleasure from it. Although Hotwife seems to have a specific gender setting, it can also be used to describe non-heterosexual relationships.

In this relationship, the couple sets the rules and discusses who can participate, how often, etc. Because it involves an exchange of power, it is not only necessary to communicate properly, but also to avoid power imbalance. Couples can enjoy such a relationship and make their original emotions stronger through various forms, such as: communication, trust, understanding and respect.

Becoming a Hotwife can enhance your self-confidence, enjoy being desired by others, and you will also know your husband's true feelings for you. Your relationship will be discussed more often, and of course it will bring new excitement and enjoyment to each other's sex life.

Most Hotwives understand that their husband is the most important thing, because difficulties and disagreements will inevitably occur during the process. Without the support of their partner, there would be no such relationship. A hotwife has her freedom, but don't abuse it or use it to hurt your partner. You should be completely honest with each other about your feelings and thoughts so that you can enjoy the satisfaction and fun that the relationship brings.

40. Stag

In Chinese, it is called stag, which means that the other half will be encouraged to have relations with others regardless of whether they are present or not. A man who, when present, actively participates in or watches his partner have sex with other people. Usually the Stag is the dominant party and remains so even when others are involved.

Part of the fun of Stag is arranging, thinking about, watching, or participating in your partner's intimacy with another person. Stags like their partners to be desired and have sex with others. In some cases, Stag may not watch or participate, but will listen to the other half describing the process that just happened, or watch silently from the sidelines. Stag also enjoys being supportive and seeing his partner enjoying themselves.

For them, such a relationship can enhance their emotional and intimate connection with each other and experience mutual empowerment with their partner, while deriving pleasure and pleasure from their partner's enjoyment.

But this relationship may bring emotional challenges to Stag's life. Jealousy, insecurity or rejection may arise and need to be addressed through open, honest and respectful communication on both sides. In the eyes of people who don't know it well, Stag may also be misunderstood or humiliated, so you can prepare for such situations first, and you can also try to get to know people with the same interests or support groups.

41. Vixen

In Chinese, it can be called a female fox (pretty nice), which refers to a woman who has sex with someone other than her partner with her partner’s consent, encouragement, and possible participation. The Vixen is usually the submissive one, but may be the dominant one with others. The Vixen's partner may be present to watch or actively participate, and the Vixen partner is the Stag.

Vixen is the center of attention, whether it is your partner or anyone else, all attention is focused on Vixen. While being caressed, kissed, and fucked during the process, she also received blessings and support from her partner.

In such a relationship and interaction, both Stag and Vixen enjoy the excitement and fresh experience brought by each other's loyalty and selfless dedication.

Trust and communication are extremely important in a relationship. Whether with your partner or someone else, trust is built over time. It's up to you how much trust you need, and if it doesn't feel right, it's up to you to decide whether to continue.

Even when you are with a third party and you find something is wrong at the moment, you should stop and express your feelings. It's normal to have feelings of doubt, fear, etc. Don't keep these to yourself or expect your partner to resolve them afterwards.

Stag and Vixen are not the same as the cuckold relationship mentioned next. There is no humiliation in Stag and Vixen.

42. Cuckold/ Cuckquean

It refers to a person who enjoys watching/peeping or knowing that his or her partner has sex with other people, and is stimulated by the humiliation it brings and feels excited. Men are called Cuckold; women are called Cuckquean (not queen). The term comes from the cuckoo bird's habit of laying eggs in other birds' nests and letting other birds raise their chicks.

Historically, a cuckold referred to a wife cheating on her husband without her knowledge, but today it mostly refers to a situation where both parties consent and authorize it. This also represents society's broader move toward accepting different fetishes and fantasies. change.

Most of the time, the cuckold/cuckquean is the one who starts the fantasy and starts discussing it with their partner. A lot of constant communication is required in such a relationship. Because it is necessary to ensure that everyone involved is voluntary and is physically and emotionally comfortable during the process, you can first set boundaries and rules with your partner, or you can express the fantasies in your mind so that your partner can be more understanding. understand.

There are also elements of power relations, masochism and voyeurism in the process. Mental humiliation plays a central role. Cuckold likes to be humiliated, degraded, and derives pleasure from the humiliation, sometimes by watching his partner play with others, and sometimes by listening to his partner talk about the process. Some also help partners prepare for others, especially in multi-person scenes, which are more intense and humiliating. But if Cuckold is forced against his will, then this is not the relationship mentioned above.

There are pros and cons in such a partnership. The bad part is that your partner may develop feelings for a third party, which may affect your partner's attraction to you or change the tone of your daily life, so as mentioned above How to be a bull without disturbing others. The good part is that it can reduce the chance of having an affair, and you can show your true side through this role, and it can also bring different excitement to the relationship.

The key differences between Cuckold and Stag are the level of participation/activity and whether there is shaming. Stag emphasizes the level of activity and involvement that encourages and enjoys a partner's relationships with others. Cuckold usually emphasizes aspects of viewing, voyeurism and humiliation. But both are informed and consenting partners to do so.

43. Cuckoldress

Refers to a woman who may have a relationship with someone other than her partner, who is fully aware of the Cuckoldress. Typically, Cuckoldress is the dominant partner in an intimate relationship with her partner, and Cuckoldress behaves with others to reinforce her dominance. 

In this relationship, Cuckoldress has all the power and chooses the right person, place and time for herself, and her partner has no right to interfere. The partner may be caged in a cuckoldress or ordered to service a third party. This situation also extends outside of sex life. Cuckoldress will give tasks to the partner and order him to complete things within a time limit, allowing Cuckoldress to have more time or energy to play with a third person.

For couples who enjoy such a relationship, the power dynamics and emotional intensity can deepen their emotional connection and provide unique satisfaction. While some strong emotions, such as jealousy and insecurity, may arise, they can be avoided through effective, open and honest communication and keeping good boundaries. The exchange of power must also be based on voluntariness and mutual understanding and consent. Continuous communication and respect are crucial.

44. Ageplayer

In Chinese, it is called an age player, which refers to a person who participates in age play. Ageplayers will play themselves into roles that are different from their actual age or status.

For Ageplayer, cross-age play provides a way to release oneself and freely experience role play. Inter-age play is all about giving and receiving care, combining nurturing with discipline, and provides an opportunity to explore a variety of fetishes, including spanking, rewards, humiliation, praise, and more.

Different age play is flexible and customizable, which also gives Ageplayer enough space to try and create the situations and gameplay you like. After all, there are often many traditional and rigid rules that restrict everyone in reality.

It is also a broad general term with many more detailed forms, such as ABDL or DDLG, etc. Ageplayer can only play in a certain scene, or it can be played 24/7, and there may not necessarily be a sexual element. Sometimes there is a power relationship in different-age play. For example, big is responsible for discipline, and little follows instructions. That is, big plays the dominant or dominant side, and little plays the submissive or passive side. However, this is not always the case. There are also many situations where little actually takes the lead. 

It is important that those who engage in cross-age role play are adults who voluntarily and freely practice this role play. Ageplayer is not a pervert or a pedophile.

45.Daddy/Mommy

This word has different meanings in different people or situations, but in Ageplay it refers to a person who plays a caregiver or father-like role in a relationship. We will see that Daddy/Mommy not only has a wise, strong, and authoritative side, but also a caring and fun side. If they happen to be Doms, they can also be called Daddy Dom and Mommy Dom.

In the relationship, Daddy/Mommy plays the dominant role and caregiver most of the time, while the other person gives them power and obeys him. Daddy/Mommy cares for, guides, and lavishes love and protection on the other person, keeping the other person's needs and interests at heart. This not only makes the other person feel warm and protected, but also keeps them away from adult pressure and maintains a carefree and childlike side. Some will also help or support the other person to achieve staged goals or accompany them out of the haze, etc. When they are Daddy/Mommy, they will feel happy from the bottom of their hearts when they see their partner grow.

Daddy/Mommy also needs to understand that everyone has different situations, rules, needs, desires, and boundaries. Because this is a relationship with deep emotions, no matter how you establish a relationship, you must take the time to understand the other person, establish a trusting relationship, and never hurt others.

46.Big

Refers to a person who plays the role of an adult in Ageplay, taking on the role of caregiver or caregiver. Because Ageplay itself only allows adults to participate, Big is easier to play than other characters.

Big can play authoritative roles such as parents, teachers, brothers and sisters, etc. The main thing is to be himself, but if the situation requires it, he can make adjustments according to the needs of both parties.

Usually Bigs are mature, responsible, compassionate and selfless people who are willing to take care of their partners, help them overcome difficulties, achieve their goals and be their partner's support, etc. Make your partner feel safe and loved, and provide a respite from the stress of being an adult.

Big can be of any gender and sexual orientation and can be dominant or submissive. For example, a dominant Big might be a strict parent or a commanding teacher; a submissive Big might be bullied by his partner or become a parent who won't take no for an answer. In some cases, Big will also be seen switching between the two.

In any case, Ageplay is a role play for adults. You must ensure that the other person is an adult like you. Both parties must give informed consent and have a certain understanding of each other.

47. Middle

It refers to the adults who play the role of pre-teens to teenagers in Ageplay. They generally fall around 10-15 years old, but there is no definite answer to this range.

Middle will show the behaviors and attitudes of teenagers in this age range, and will also have different psychological, emotional, behavioral and spiritual expressions depending on the age they are currently playing.

Middle is usually more independent and mischievous than other child characters. Likewise, the Middle can be submissive or dominant, sometimes switching between the two. A submissive Middle may listen to their partner and complete the tasks assigned to them; a Dominant Middle may get sulky or disobey their partner because things don't go their way.

Middle usually likes to draw, play video games, watch cartoons, read comics and do handicrafts. Some also like children's toys. She will also be more fashionable in terms of dressing up, and the makeup she wears will be thicker than other actors who are younger. Although Middle is more independent, he still wants to hug or play with his caregiver. It is also seen that some people will switch to Middle or Little in different states or situations.

48.Little

It refers to an adult who plays the role of a child-like mentality and behavior in Ageplay, usually between 4 and 10 years old, but there is no definite answer to this range. A relationship with Little does not necessarily involve a power relationship. If there is a power relationship, Little can be the submissive or the dominant party. A submissive Little will be an obedient and well-behaved child. On the contrary, a dominant Little may often lose his temper or be deliberately disruptive.

Some Little ones may wear diapers, onesies, or cute clothes, while others may eat pacifiers, play with dolls, and color in coloring books. How you behave depends on your own cognition, preferences, and comfort level.

Regardless of Little's actual age, the length of time he or she plays, or the size of the situation, Little can gain warmth and security from the care and protection provided by his caregivers. In addition, Little's emotions are sometimes more sensitive, so he needs more time to accompany or comfort him.

For Little, it's also a way to get away from the stress of real life. The most important thing is to find someone who makes you happy and comfortable, who doesn't need to hide your true self, and who both are willing to get to know each other. If you meet someone who doesn't understand you yet and makes direct demands or only focuses on punishment or sex, then leave as soon as possible! Because he does not take your needs and feelings into consideration, and it is easy to cause physical, mental and spiritual harm.

Daddy/Mommy has Little's best interests in mind and will go to great lengths to build trust and respect. They'll learn what Little likes or dislikes, and most importantly, know and respect boundaries and Little's goals.

49. Babygirl(boy)

Babygirl/boy appears in many relationships, and in most cases is used as an intimate nickname for sub or bottom. In Ageplay, it refers to adults who regard themselves as children and seek parents or caregivers. Usually the age of the role is around 1-4 years old. There is no specific answer in this range.

Each Baby has its own favorite behavior patterns and ways of expression in different situations. For example, some will bite their pacifiers, wear diapers, and drink from bottles; some like to wear cute children's clothes or play with stuffed toys; some like to be treated as princesses to get the most attention.

A Baby has a nurturing, loving and emotional relationship with its caregiver or Dom. They will regard the baby as their most precious possession and protect it with all their strength. They will also teach the baby everything they know and meet the baby's needs.

If you want to be your true self in front of your partner, the most important thing is to find someone you trust completely. This trust must be unwavering and is a prerequisite before a great relationship can be established.

50.Brat

It refers to a person who likes to act naughty, disobedient, rebellious or talks back, just like a brat. Brats may taunt, push boundaries, or test their partner's limits in order to gain attention or punishment. These behaviors may seem different than normal, but they also inject a sense of energy, interaction, and mischief into each other that is rarely seen on a regular basis.

Although a Brat is generally defined as being submissive, the degree of submissiveness can vary depending on the purpose or situation. The more submissive Brat will be excited when the other party uses power to punish him; the more willful Brat will continue to challenge the boundaries to see if he can escape punishment. Some Brats like to test each other's dominance, some Brats crave to be tamed, and some Brats don't want to be controlled at all.

If you like a sub who is well-behaved and won't talk back today, then a brat will not be your first choice. As a brat, it is recommended to make it clear to the other party in the early stages of establishing a relationship to avoid wasting each other's time.

Brat's partner will be called Brat Tamer or Brat Handler (depending on personal preference). They will be people who stand firm and like to dominate Brat and want to earn respect. Of course, you also need to be flexible enough, and you also need to know that punishment does not apply to every situation and know how to punish effectively.

Before starting, both parties will set rules, inform boundaries and limits, establish safe words and acceptable punishments, so these provocations and punishments will be the result of mutual consent and communication.

This will not only reduce the chance of injury, but also help you understand Brat's thoughts better. The better you get to know Brats, the more fun you can have in the process, and you will have more opportunities to dominate them. The process of domination will be an interesting thing for both parties, and it can also be imagined as a process of flirting. There's nothing wrong with showing your playful side as long as you're both having fun!

51. Handler

In Chinese, it is called an animal tamer/trainer, which refers to the caregiver and leader of pets/animals in pet games. Handler is a very dynamic character who handles the relationship with pets in many ways.

Handlers are usually professional Doms, which also means they have the power to dominate and control. Because pet/animal games are more fluid and diverse in terms of protocols and rules than others, Handlers may often intersperse among many dominant types of characters. In addition to serving as Handler, in some cases it may also assume other leading roles such as Owners and Trainers.

Before establishing a relationship with a pet, both parties must first discuss the rules, preferences, etc., so that nothing goes wrong in the middle of the game. You must also know that pet play is also a type of power relationship, which requires attention and care for pets. You must understand that running this relationship requires a sense of responsibility.

Handlers usually provide care, protection, and mentality building and maintenance for pets. For example, we will provide pets with comfortable care and avoid high-intensity exercise from before to after the game to ensure that all scenes and links are safe and sane. Problems will be solved or the game will be suspended when necessary.

In the game, Handler will treat it like a real pet instead of treating a person pretending to be a pet. During the process, the pet will be touched and held, given snacks and love, and the pet can also be trained in some skills.

At the end of the day, pets are often emotionally sensitive, and the Handler will also provide emotional support and ensure that the pet's needs are being met. There are also some basic rules to pay attention to, such as: consent, symbolism of the collar, safety, respect and rationality.

When we encounter other animals today and want to touch them, do not touch them directly or force them to interact with you. We can try squatting next to them and stretching out our hands to give them a smell or wait for them to approach you. If you encounter a pet wearing a collar, it means that it has an owner, and you must obtain the owner's permission and understand the acceptable range of the other pet.

The relationship between a Handler and a pet can be very rewarding and emotionally charged. Don’t worry too much if there are small mistakes at the beginning, both parties take it as a learning experience. Learn and grow from each other, play together, stay away from the pressure of real life, and make each other a better person.

52.Furry

Furry fans in Chinese are people who like anthropomorphic or furry animals, and some will wear costumes or symbolic props representing the animals.

Anthropomorphic animals are like Bambi or Nick the Fox from Equation Animal...any fictional animal character with human-like characteristics or emotions. For real furry animals, most people choose wolves, foxes or any furry animals, and some people choose dragons!

Furry is a diverse group, and everyone is united by various ideas, not just about dressing up. There are painters who like to draw anthropomorphic animals, with styles ranging from cute to sexy; people who like to wear full fursuits for many reasons, some are performers, some are to interact with others, and some are for display Another self. Of course, there are also people who wear partial costumes and role-play; there are also people who simply appreciate the culture or consider themselves to be real animals in terms of self-identity.

Although Furry belongs to a subculture, this group has many fans. They also have many online societies and offline gatherings that you can join, all of which are formed and held by Furries with common interests.

In pet games, some people like to dress up as furry animals to satisfy their fetish. Sometimes it’s not necessarily just in bed, sometimes it’s at BDSM parties. But we need to know that people who dress up just to satisfy their sexual fetishes only make up a part of the Furry community, and they are not the only thing that everyone is interested in. This also leads to the most common misunderstanding of Furry by people who don’t know Furry.

If you are a Furry today but are not understood by those around you, whether you regard it as a hobby or your way of life, you can try to join some societies, where you can not only make like-minded friends, but also You can express yourself well. When communicating with other Furry, you will also gain many new experiences or learn some new skills.

53. Pet

It is called pet in Chinese, which means that a person is loved and owned regardless of whether he agrees with the pet game or not.

Why do you say this? Because in BDSM, Pet is not only seen in pet games, but is sometimes a term of endearment for Sub.

Pet in pet games means dressing yourself up like a pet/animal and imitating their behavior. Everything from simple costumes such as animal ears, tail plugs, and collars to more professional masks, costumes, or prosthetics. Behaviorally, eating and drinking from bowls, crawling on all fours, learning commands and skills, grooming or sleeping on the floor and in a cage...etc.

The most common types of pets/animals are ponies, puppies, and kittens, but there are many different animals. Some people will play different animal roles in different situations. Some are only played in specific situations, while others are pets full-time. Everything depends on your own choice or the result of communication with the owner.

For Pet, pet games are not only a kind of role-playing, but also a way to release the stress of real life. Just like adults in Ageplay play roles different from their own age.

They may become spiritually connected to their pet role and adopt it as a lifestyle choice. Becoming a Pet is a psychological and emotional release, being able to escape society's restrictions and become who you want to be.

If you are interested in becoming a Pet, you may want to find out what type of pet/animal you are suitable for or like and what behaviors are helpful for interaction. By thinking first, you can understand yourself better and also benefit from changes in appearance and behavior. For example, if you want to be a cat, you can start learning to walk on all fours, learn to meow, like to be groomed, or have a proud personality. The more you act like your chosen pet, the easier it will be to immerse yourself in the character.

Before entering into a relationship, communication is important. Both parties must establish boundaries, set rules and safe words, and ensure safety in the game. Therefore, everyone's master-pet relationship is different, but only when each other grows and learns from each other can the relationship become deeper.

Finally, while there is an element of pet play that fulfills a fantasy or fetish, it is not the only factor and these interactions do not involve bestiality. There must also be a distinction between Human Pets, because most Human Pets do not dress up as pets/animals or have the same behavior patterns as real animals, like Pets.

54.Kitten

It refers to the person who plays the role of a kitten/cat and a person who has the costume, behavior or personality of a cat in Pet Play. Kitten may have an owner or caregiver, or may have an exclusive pet contract with the owner. But it doesn’t matter if you don’t have an owner. You can be a free little wild cat.

Most kittens are submissive, but like cats, their personalities are changeable, so you will also see Switch or Dom type kittens. There may not necessarily be a relationship involved, everything is a decision made by both parties.

Before establishing a relationship, you can spend time researching the terminology and gameplay of Kitten play, and understand various terms, instructions, and things that may appear before entering the cat world. This will also help to avoid being misled.

Because this is not just a change in appearance, but behavioral patterns will also change over time.

The most important thing is to take care of yourself and be who you are, and don't feel pressured into doing things you don't love or looking exactly like everyone else. As long as you like it and don't violate the rules established by both parties, you will be happier being yourself. Of course, you need to find a partner who is suitable and respects you, so that you can play safely but also meet your needs and receive the care and love you deserve.

Common costume props in Kitten Play include cat ears, tails, collars or exclusive cat bowls, with cat ears being the most common entry-level choice. Common behaviors include petting, grooming, playing with cat toys, eating and drinking milk from a cat bowl, and learning skills and instructions... and so on.

Kitten Play also has training and instructions for cats. For example: learning the cat's sitting posture, the use of claws, tail and ears, and understanding the meaning of position changes and interpretations, crawling and hunting... and other training. As a Kitten owner, you should also know more about your cat and provide timely rewards, love and care. Don’t be too rigid and old-fashioned, after all, cats sometimes show naughty and arrogant looks. You can chat with Kitten, play with him, pet him and teach him more.

Regardless of whether there is an owner or not, every Kitten can decide its own meaning and love. Don’t be bound by the framework and be a happy kitten!

55.Pony

Refers to a person who plays a horse/pony and has the dress, behavior or personality of a horse in Pet Play.

Pony Play has a long history. Similar behavioral patterns were recorded in books from the late 2nd century AD to the 19th century. It was not until recent decades that it became more common in BDSM-related communities and some magazines.

Usually Pony is Sub and rider, trainer, owner and groomer are Dom.

Compared with the common Pup Play and Kitten Play, Pony Play is more complex, with many types of horses and various trainings.

Common Pony accessories and equipment are also called Pony tacks. For example: bridles, saddles, boots, gloves, masks and ears. More professional ones will use eye masks, jumpsuits, feathers, horse chains... and other equipment. Different equipment and props will be used in different types of horses and situations, and there will also be Pony Play equipment competitions. But you don’t have to buy them all to become a Pony. You can choose your own exclusive props according to your preferences and budget.

There are a total of 9 types of Pony, namely working, breeding, carting, riding, performing, dancing, racing, happy, and rubber.

The owner can communicate and discuss with Pony and choose specific skills to train Pony together. Some owners will also cross-train their Pony to have various skills or participate in various competitions. However, because of the high degree of difficulty and complexity, repeated practice and attention to the Pony's condition are required.

The most common pony types are working, riding, and performing types.

Working Type: A strong pony trained to carry heavy loads, which tests Pony's athletic ability and ability to discern routes while blindfolded.

Riding type: The rider or trainer will ride on the Pony, depending on whether the Pony can bear their weight or be stable when moving.

Performance type: The biggest difference is the clothing and equipment. Their clothing is more exquisite and luxurious than other types of Pony. Some will participate in competitions, and the training is also more complicated and difficult.

The training is divided into 3 stages from basic to advanced.

Basic training includes guiding Pony through the reins. Under normal circumstances, Pony should be given enough room to move. However, if it does not obey the instructions, you can tighten the reins or divert its attention. If not, you can use a command tone to stop it.

Tying and knotting: There are many ways to tie a Pony. During the process, the Pony must be trained not to move and maintain a correct posture, and to avoid strangling the Pony when tying knots, so that it can stay in the middle position.

Grooming Pony's appearance: This is an important and intimate act before BDSM training. While grooming, be careful not to hurt or damage Pony's appearance.

Intermediate training is mainly based on Pony's pace. There are four common paces, namely walking, trotting, jogging and trotting, which involve more equipment and physical fitness.

Walking: The slowest and simplest among them, Pony is divided into 2-legged and 4-legged. The training requires one foot to leave the ground and the knee to be 90 degrees higher than the normal walking height.

Trot: It belongs to the rhythm of 2 beats. Two feet are on the ground and the other two are lifted up to move. This is a method to move easily and maintain physical strength.

Jogging: It belongs to a 3-beat rhythm. It requires all three feet to leave the ground and one foot to switch to the ground to support oneself. It can be imagined as a dynamic movement like skipping rope.

Fast running: It belongs to the rhythm of 4 beats, which is similar to jogging, but it requires stable and fast continuity to step forward with the same foot.

Legged submission, driving and veterinary games are common in advanced training, all of which require very high skills to achieve.

Leg submission: This is a simple exercise where Pony needs to move forward to submit to the opponent's leg. At this time, Pony's legs will cross and bend diagonally and in opposite directions. This training can use reins or other props to guide correct posture.

Driving: including starting, stabilizing speed and stopping. The owner needs to guide Pony from behind, using commands and riding whips to make Pony move more stably; pay attention to the equipment worn and used, as they may affect the feeling and feel of the process. the pressure caused.

Vet: There will be different activities depending on Pony's gender. Common is the examination of body organs, the process is generally gentle, but enough to understand Pony and both parties reach a consensus. More intense behaviors include castration, branding, insemination, etc. Of course, these must be carried out with the consent of both parties and under safe conditions.

Pony play, like other Pet Plays, does not necessarily involve sex, consent and safety are also extremely important, and it is certainly not bestiality.

Some Pony identify themselves as horses, some enjoy the high level of obedience and training in Pony Play, and some do it to stay away from the pressure of real life. There are all kinds of things to choose from in Pony Play. As long as you get satisfaction and happiness from them, it's great.

56.Pup

It refers to a person who plays the role of a puppy/dog in Pet Play and has the costume, behavior or personality of a dog. A Pup can be a puppy without a leader and a group. Pup's identity is not given by others, nor can it be determined by environment and resources. The only person who can determine Pup is yourself, and you don't need anyone to prove it.

Consent is the only firm principle in Pup Play, it applies to all situations, and you can stop it at any time. You can set your own boundaries before entering the game to avoid being ruined. Your boundaries are very important. After all, there are still some people who are not polite. We also need to know how to respect others and their boundaries, interact with other Pups with caution and respect, and pay attention to their body language or verbal warnings.

It is also important to have a safe gaming environment, such as your own home or a familiar and comfortable private area. You can also choose safer public places, such as public spaces that can accommodate Pup Play or some related party activities. Sometimes Pup can be seen in Leatherman parties.

Playing in a safe place allows you to play more safely and reduce the occurrence of injuries or conflicts. After all, not everyone knows how to appreciate Pup Play.

Common costume props include dog masks, gloves, tails, collars, harnesses or exclusive dog bowls. There are also some props that can reduce the injuries that may be caused during Pup Play, such as cushioned gloves and knee pads. Because the limbs are on the ground when running or crawling, wearing cushioned props can reduce bruises or joint twists.

Common behaviors include crawling, barking, wearing a collar, or playing with the owner...and other common dog behavior patterns. There may be sexual elements, but there is no bestiality and it is not humiliation.

Pup Play not only allows Pup to escape stress and anxiety, but also provides an opportunity to explore himself. Whether it is to delve into life patterns, use experience to improve yourself, or satisfy a fetish, it is a very pleasant experience for Pup and owner. Keep an open mind and enjoy the fun of Pup Play!

57. Alpha/Beta/Omega

Here are three words that sometimes appear in Pup Play

Alpha Pup refers to a Pup who is more dominant and usually plays a leading role in the group. It is characterized by leadership, charm, and responsibility. Alpha Pup provides guidance and leadership to other Pups. Any dominance and leadership of Alpha Pup comes from the recognition and trust of the surrounding people, so becoming an Alpha Pup is not decided by oneself.

Beta Pups are important characters in Pup Play because they usually have a lot of skill points and are like capable supervisors. When necessary, Beta Pup will jump out to lead everyone, will also stop things that go too far, and will appease Omega Pup and safeguard their rights and interests in a timely manner. As for the degree of influence and power that can be achieved, it depends on one's own abilities and the structure of the group.

Omega Pup is the most obedient puppy among them, and if there is a hierarchy, it is the lowest. The Omega Pup craves guidance and tasks and will happily submit to others. Most Omega Pups are not willing to take on care responsibilities, but will be happy to follow/serve or meet the needs of others, and gain happiness and satisfaction from it.

Pups in these three roles have their own things that need to be learned and trained. But some Pups don’t like this kind of title, so you can first understand each other’s preferences when using it, and don’t equate it with the abo relationship in the novel, because this is BDSM that requires adulthood, mutual consent and safety.

58. Exploring/Evolving

Exploring refers to people who are going through the exploration stage; Evolving refers to people who are going through the transformation stage.

Exploring itself has some thoughts or interests in BDSM. It might be a fantasy, or it might be that you and your partner want to give it a try and start looking for information on the Internet or attending some offline gatherings.

In the exploration stage, hesitation is normal. You can try to express the fantasies in your mind and clearly understand what you want. You don't need to jump in immediately. Because BDSM has different meanings and differences for different things and people, you can first try to discuss your ideas with your partner and set boundaries for both parties. But you must know clearly that BDSM is not pure abuse, nor is it always related to sex. Of course, it requires informed consent from both parties, ensuring that the moment is safe, respecting each other's ideas, etc.

Evolving may be because you have more experience and know what you want better; it may also be because your age, mentality, experiences, or relationship with your partner have changed, and you have a different understanding of yourself and start to change your role.

When entering the transition period, you can try to face yourself and your partner honestly, communicate with your partner and respect each other's ideas. There is no need to think that this is bad, because change is normal, and even BDSM itself will change over time, so slowly understand your inner self and situation, sort out your thoughts, relax and face it without any rush. Some Evolving do not want or think that they do not belong to any role.

59. Vanilla

Known as Vanilla in Chinese, it refers to a person who does not have any obvious quirks or fetishes. It is generally believed that Vanilla has no interest in or even feels disgusted with adult topics, or does not understand or reject toys, positions or gameplay, and lacks relative awareness in power relationships.

Sometimes we also see Vanilla Kink, which refers to people who only lightly hit/pinch people during the process or who only like to play with light restraints.

Some people think that Vanilla is too normal and not perverted enough. They think that it is boring or that the performance in bed will be poor. But for different people, what is normal and what is perverted depends on their own perception. Everyone’s lifestyle and practical experience are different, and there are also cognitive differences.

Different cultures and different periods have different views on mainstream or non-mainstream sexual behaviors. Whether you are Vanilla or Kinkster, it all depends on whether you identify with these characters. There is no need to use them as weapons to attack others because everyone is a person worthy of being loved and respected. Vanilla can also enjoy the behavior that is comfortable and suitable for you, and get pleasure and satisfaction in the process.

60. Drag Queen(King)

A drag queen (king) in Chinese refers to a person who uses exaggerated makeup and clothing to highlight characteristics different from their biological gender and express their self-identity. Sometimes it's for entertainment, sometimes it's for art...and so on. But the most important thing is to show everyone the characteristics you feel in your heart through cross-dressing.

Cross-dressing is not just about putting on makeup and putting on clothes. It requires a lot of preparation in advance. You need to think about what performance method to use, how to present the stage tension, and preparations for choreography, costumes, props, etc. When entering the performance/working state, attention should also be paid to the small details of the appearance and body.

The cross-dressing culture in the West is older than that in the East. The roots of cross-dressing can be traced back to ancient Greece and Shakespeare. The first drag queen appeared in the United States in 1880, and in Taiwan around the 1980s/90s, she appeared in a gay bar in Taipei.

It was not until the emergence of RuPaul's Drag Show in the 21st century that more people became aware of drag culture and it entered the mainstream. Our Taiwanese drag queen Nifeiya even won the championship in the 16th season. However, cross-dressing culture still has different objections in different countries.

We must also be careful not to confuse cross-dressers with transsexuals or transvestites, but no matter what, be brave enough to be yourself, you don’t need to live in other people’s expectations, show your true self and what you like, embrace the things you like, and be happy Heart life.

Although drag culture is more commonly discussed within LGBTQ+ circles, drag and BDSM influence each other in many people and situations.

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